When Do You Know?

How many times do we wish we could just get over something that is hurting us? I mean we tell ourselves that it will all get better in time, but how much time? How much time do we need to feel the pain for? Hours, days, weeks, months, or even worst years? When do you know it's time to just let go? Is it when you wake up and no longer feel anything, and how does that work? Because no matter what we will always feel something, whether small or big, we will always feel something for whoever or whatever hurt us, because I mean they only hurt us because we let them. 

I read in a book, "You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world...but you do have some say in who hurts you." (Augustus Waters, The Faults in Our Stars) 

So why do we let ourselves get hurt, knowing that it can take forever, or at least what feels like forever, to get over it.

But a better question, what made us want to give the person who hurt us the right to do it? We trusted them enough to let them in and they hurt us, is it a lesser pain when we chose who hurts us? Are we masochists because of that? Because we know that there's a chance for pain and we welcome it.

I know we need it, because pain lets us know that we're alive, that we can feel, because too many times those moments of happiness seem more like memories or dreams than reality, but pain..pain is felt for so long, for too long.

xoxo O